One of the things I am careful about while at work, or while teaching or at home is not to pamper those who indulge in tantrums. Some think that they can throw tantrums, and people will pay extra attention to them/give additional benefit to them just to shut them up, or to stop them from creating further nuisance. If they are pampered, they lie low for a while and then revert to their tantrums in a few months time. I have seen employees, who talk loudly how they have two better offers on their hand which they are contemplating, or there are cases of some who walk in saying they would like the company to match the latest offer or else they threaten to quit. Some of these offers are plain bogus, and cooked up at times in fake letter heads. My response - I stare at them in their eyes and tell them to take up the offer, quit my company. This puts them in a spot. They revert to how they would not like to put the company into trouble and how they would like to give adequate notice bla bla bla. I tell them not to bother and to quit with immediate effect. But I know of at least three middle level managers in Kuwait, Indians, who manage to bully their company to give them hikes every 6 months or so with the threat to quit. And after 4 years, they have still not quit nor will they. And the other staff knows about this, and have started using the same tactic, spoiling the whole culture of the company. Needless to say, the companies in question are not doing well.
Pakistan tries the same trick with the World Community. They indulge in terrorism, and then expect the world to give them billions of dollars of doles to ensure 'good behaviour'. In a months time, they repeat the same trick, over and over again. It is almost a national trait. Just see their indignant behaviour when the cricket trio was caught in the spot fixing scandal, and the earlier fixing scandals!
We are seeing something similar in Kashmir. Contrary to what many people think, only four areas in the Kashmir valley is indulging in stone pelting. Ladakh, Jammu and most of rural Kashmir valley is peaceful. This is one state that has been pampered with doles. The average funds per person given to the people of J&K by the Central Government is 10 times that of any other State in India. But still they complain of neglect and resort to silly violence. This leads to everyone making a beeline to the protesters and pampering them with promise of more money to root out unemployment and for developmental programs. Unemployment is rampant throughout the country, but hardly any funds is alloted to other parts of the country. Then why to Kashmir? It is time, we stared the Kashmiris eyeball to eyeball (by Kashmiris, I mean the militant side of it) and tell them to fall in line or face the consequences. Any violence has to be treated as a law and order situation and no leniency should be shown. I cant understand why we are talking of a political solution at all. Kashmir is an integral part of India. It has got an elected Government. It is not starved of funds. Let the Government of J&K should be treated as any other State Government, and they should be shown no special preference. Never pamper a bully. Read the riot act, here and now, before it is too late.
